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It Wasn’t an Affair or Romance: Understanding Power, Consent, and Coercion in Clergy Sexual Abuse

A psychologist explores how power and coercion distort “consent” in clergy sexual abuse and exploitation —and how faith-sensitive, trauma-informed therapy supports healing. Although these relationships have been seen as an affair, this does not recognise the power differential and fiduciary duty associated with the pastor’s role.

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Unmasking Adult Clergy Sexual Abuse

Adult clergy sexual abuse is not an affair—it is exploitation rooted in power imbalance, grooming, and spiritual abuse. In Emily’s story, we see how manipulation, secrecy, and distorted theology erode trust and cause lasting trauma. This article explains the signs of clergy abuse, the psychology of grooming, and pathways to healing. Christian psychology support is available through Refuge Psychology with registered psychologist Kylie Walls.

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The Pain of Being Scapegoated in a Church Community

Scapegoating occurs when blame or shame is unfairly placed on one person or group, often silencing those who raise concerns. In churches and faith communities, scapegoating can appear through shunning, silence, or distorted narratives. Psychological theories such as displacement, social identity, cognitive dissonance, and obedience to authority help explain why communities avoid confronting systemic issues. This article explores the impact of scapegoating in spiritual contexts.

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The Sexual Grooming Model: How Manipulation Unfolds, and How Understanding it can Help you Heal

Psychologist explains the five stages of sexual grooming and how manipulation unfolds in spiritual or authority contexts. Learn how understanding these patterns helps survivors rebuild trust, recognise coercive control, and begin healing from abuse.

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Spiritual Abuse: Understanding, Recovering, and escaping the invisible cage

Spiritual abuse and coercive control can leave deep psychological, emotional, and spiritual scars. This article explains how manipulation, misuse of scripture, and clergy exploitation erode autonomy and faith. Learn how spiritual abuse impacts identity, mental health, and relationships—and why independent, trauma-informed care and Christian psychology support are essential for recovery, resilience, and healing in faith contexts.

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Spiritual Abuse Counselling: What Helps and What Doesn’t

Spiritual abuse counselling provides a safe space to heal from the misuse of faith, authority, and control. Learn how therapy can help survivors of spiritual abuse rebuild trust, process grief, and reclaim their voice—while avoiding common pitfalls that may repeat harmful dynamics.

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Adult Clergy Sexual Abuse and PTSD: When Trust Turns into Trauma

Adult clergy sexual abuse causes profound psychological and spiritual trauma. Research shows high rates of PTSD, relational harm, and loss of faith following abuse by trusted religious leaders. This article explores the impact of adult clergy sexual abuse, institutional betrayal, and pathways to healing through trauma-informed, faith-sensitive support.


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