Many people who have been groomed or manipulated in a religious setting ask the same question: was there something about me that made this happen? Written by a psychologist with a special interest in spiritual abuse and adult grooming, this piece explains what grooming and manipulation look like in religious contexts — and why vulnerability is never a personal failing.

A psychologist explores how power and coercion distort “consent” in clergy sexual abuse and exploitation —and how faith-sensitive, trauma-informed therapy supports healing. Although these relationships have been seen as an affair, this does not recognise the power differential and fiduciary duty associated with the pastor’s role.

Spiritual abuse counselling provides a safe space to heal from the misuse of faith, authority, and control. Learn how therapy can help survivors of spiritual abuse rebuild trust, process grief, and reclaim their voice—while avoiding common pitfalls that may repeat harmful dynamics.