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Abusive Relationships
Abusive relationships involve patterns of behavior where one partner seeks to gain or maintain power and control over the other. These behaviors can be physical, emotional, psychological, financial, or sexual, and often escalate over time. Recognizing the signs of abuse is crucial for seeking help and support.


It Wasn’t an Affair or Romance: Understanding Power, Consent, and Coercion in Clergy Sexual Abuse
A psychologist explores how power and coercion distort “consent” in clergy sexual abuse—and how faith-sensitive, trauma-informed therapy supports healing.

Kylie Walls
Oct 258 min read


The Sexual Grooming Model: How Manipulation Unfolds, and How Understanding it can Help you Heal
Psychologist explains the five stages of sexual grooming and how manipulation unfolds in spiritual or authority contexts. Learn how understanding these patterns helps survivors rebuild trust, recognise coercive control, and begin healing from abuse.

Kylie Walls
Oct 157 min read


Faith, Trust, and Control: Making Sense of Spiritual Abuse
Spiritual abuse occurs when faith or religious authority is misused to control, shame, or silence. Learn how a psychologist explains its signs, impact, and recovery pathways. If you’re in distress, call Lifeline on 13 11 14.

Kylie Walls
Oct 1410 min read


Adult Clergy Sexual Abuse and PTSD: When Trust Turns into Trauma
Adult clergy sexual abuse shatters trust and faith. Learn how trauma impacts mind and body, and how a faith-sensitive psychologist can support recovery through safe, compassionate, trauma-informed care.

Kylie Walls
Oct 58 min read


Life After Leaving a High-Control Religious Group: What People Often Experience
Leaving high-control religious groups or spiritually abusive churches can cause deep wounds. Learn about identity loss, trauma, family impacts, and pathways to healing and resilience.

Kylie Walls
Sep 239 min read


The Pain of Being Scapegoated in a Church Community
Scapegoating occurs when blame or shame is unfairly placed on one person or group, often silencing those who raise concerns. In churches and faith communities, scapegoating can appear through shunning, silence, or distorted narratives. Psychological theories such as displacement, social identity, cognitive dissonance, and obedience to authority help explain why communities avoid confronting systemic issues. This article explores the impact of scapegoating in spiritual context

Kylie Walls
Aug 266 min read


When Choice Isn’t Really Choice: The Reality of Coercion
Coercion can appear in relationships, workplaces, churches, and faith communities through emotional pressure, manipulation, withholding, and spiritual abuse. This article explains the meaning of coercion, coercive control, and subtle threats, showing how they erode autonomy, trust, and wellbeing. Learn how coercion impacts intimacy, family, leadership, and religious settings, and discover strategies to recognise coercive behaviour, break unhealthy patterns, and seek safe, tra

Kylie Walls
Jun 2112 min read


The Stages of Grooming in Adult Clergy Sexual Exploitation: Understanding the Patterns of Betrayal and Abuse
Adult clergy sexual exploitation is not an ‘affair’ but a betrayal of trust, power, and spiritual authority. This article explains the stages of grooming in clergy sexual abuse, highlighting patterns of coercive control, manipulation, and boundary violations. Learn how grooming erodes autonomy, the profound psychological and spiritual impact on survivors, and why survivor-centred, trauma-informed responses are essential for healing, justice, and safer faith communities.

Kylie Walls
Apr 268 min read


The Hidden Harm: Understanding Adult Clergy Sexual Exploitation and the Vulnerabilities of Survivors
Understanding adult clergy sexual exploitation requires insight into spiritual abuse and the psychological dynamics that make victims more vulnerable. This article explores how cognitive dissonance, schema chemistry, and reverence for spiritual leaders can cloud victims' perceptions, making abuse harder to recognize. Highlighting the importance of appropriate vulnerability in relationships and the misuse of pastoral authority, it addresses the spiritual harm victims experienc

Kylie Walls
Apr 267 min read


Why People join and Stay in Spiritually Abusive or high control spiritual Environments
Spiritual abuse in high-control religious environments often draws people in through love-bombing, trauma patterns, or authority dynamics. This article explores why people join, stay, or become complicit in spiritually abusive churches, using insights from psychology, coercive control, and betrayal trauma. Learn how power, obedience, and gaslighting keep people trapped—and how Christian psychology support can help survivors find healing, autonomy, and freedom.

Kylie Walls
Apr 88 min read


Spiritual Abuse: Understanding, Recovering, and escaping the invisible cage
Spiritual abuse and coercive control can leave deep psychological, emotional, and spiritual scars. This article explains how manipulation, misuse of scripture, and clergy exploitation erode autonomy and faith. Learn how spiritual abuse impacts identity, mental health, and relationships—and why independent, trauma-informed care and Christian psychology support are essential for recovery, resilience, and healing in faith contexts.

Kylie Walls
Apr 87 min read


Disrupted Attachment, Control, and Emotion Dysregulation: A Path to Violence in Netflix's Adolescence
this article unpacks the psychological forces driving the protagonist’s actions in Netflix's Adolescence

Kylie Walls
Mar 216 min read


When Love Becomes an Invisible Cage: Recognising the Signs of Coercive Control and Emotional Abuse, and Religious Abuse
Coercive control and emotional abuse often begin subtly—masked as concern, faith, or guidance—before escalating into an invisible cage of fear, guilt, and isolation. This article explores the signs of coercive control, emotional and spiritual abuse, and the devastating psychological impacts. Learn how to recognise red flags in relationships, why early intervention matters, and how professional Christian psychology support can provide healing, autonomy, and recovery from abuse

Kylie Walls
Dec 9, 20247 min read


Understanding Control in Relationships: Insights from Our Latest Research
Why do some people use control in relationships? Research led by psychologist Kylie Walls (2024) links controlling behaviours to insecure attachment, emotion dysregulation, and shame. This article explores how anxious and avoidant attachment styles contribute to unhealthy dynamics and how therapies like EFT, DBT, and shame resilience work can foster emotional safety, healthier communication, and healing in couples. Includes Christian psychology support.

Kylie Walls
Dec 2, 20244 min read


Unmasking Adult Clergy Sexual Abuse
Adult clergy sexual abuse is not an affair—it is exploitation rooted in power imbalance, grooming, and spiritual abuse. In Emily’s story, we see how manipulation, secrecy, and distorted theology erode trust and cause lasting trauma. This article explains the signs of clergy abuse, the psychology of grooming, and pathways to healing. Christian psychology support is available through Refuge Psychology with registered psychologist Kylie Walls.

Kylie Walls
Nov 28, 20247 min read
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